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Friday, May 28

Quality Ramblings

Mommy told me I'm rude today.

She says, if people want to talk, you should listen to them. And when you talk, and find people not paying attention, you should continue anyway. That's only polite.

I disagree, and very much so.

I used to listen to ramblings, on and on and I don't think they made me a better person or more polite. It's a difficulty feigning interest when you're not - and more often then not, the speaker knows it.

But when you're geniunely not interested or ignorant of the uninteresting topic such that you cannot contribute, you can only feign interest, change topics or walk away.

Most tend to feign interest, and soon hanging out with that person becomes a chore. I've had that before, with people who just keeps going on and on and on...

It's really quite dreadful whenever they launch their starting line. Since I don't want to suffer through the pain of having to feign interest (and hence, inciting the belief that I love their ramblings) nor am I capable of walking away, I simply change topics. It usually works - and I feel it sends the message that I'm here to listen, but not when you're going to repeat. Again!

If it doesn't, I simply see you less or plan non-talking gatherings. (I love movies and museums for that. Dad used to talk about his work, with all the technicalities I didn't get, and I was like, oh, let's go catch a movie and we came out happily discussing Ip Man.)

I don't feel I'm being rude. Do you think I am? From my point of view, I'm trying to make hanging out fun for both of us - I don't want to end up avoiding you because you cannot get over your ramblings.

And I'm sure if I ramble to you the way you do and make life sounds so depressing, you'd totally run away. (like 'oh, I think I'm seriously going to lose my job this time.' and you list your subjective reasons that doesn't even really make sense; or 'I think life sucks' to which I can only say, life is always greener elsewhere! Heck, I'm wish I'm a huge superstar who can sing for a living. The free clothes, world tours!)

I ramble too, in fact I ramble a lot. I used to be able to ramble about my day for an entire night, and to do it without fail everyday. But I realize my audience's not captivated - I think I was just background noise to whatever they were doing. So, why ramble to somebody who is barely listening and not going to comment nor advise? I might as well direct my rambles to a toy which I can hug to sleep later, or to blog/rant online for whoever's interested to reply.

I'm sure, out there, there must be somebody interested in your ramblings; someone to ramble about the same things to. Isn't that more fulfilling?

Just my thoughts on ramblings to the right person and quality conversations. Because seriously, I really loathe listening to ramblings.

And you see, I'm rambling now.

23:07